Relief Society · Elders Quorum · 25 minutes
Elder Neil L. Andersen · Of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles · Sunday Afternoon Session
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Eternal marriage is not a destination reached at the altar but an ongoing journey of becoming, sustained by covenant faithfulness and the power of Jesus Christ.
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Before Sunday
Sunday we're discussing Elder Andersen's talk on eternal marriage
Elder Neil L. Andersen taught this past conference that eternal marriage is not a short-term experiment but 'an eternal journey of becoming who God desires us to become.' He shared the story of a couple who faced decades of unexpected health trials and held to their covenants through all of it. Before Sunday, you might read or listen to his talk at ChurchofJesusChrist.org. Come ready to share: what has helped you see marriage as a journey rather than an achievement?
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Think back to a moment in your marriage, or a marriage you've observed closely, when things were genuinely hard. Not a small irritation, but a season that tested the commitment. Without going into anything too personal, what did that season teach you about what a covenant actually is?
Think back to a moment in your marriage, or a marriage you've observed closely, when things were genuinely hard. Not a small irritation, but a season that tested the commitment. Without going into anything too personal, what did that season teach you about what a covenant actually is?
Elder Andersen described a couple he and Sister Andersen met fifty years ago, newly married, full of promise. Then unexpectedly, the wife developed severe depression. Her son later told Elder Andersen that he lost count of the times he walked in on his father on his knees, or fasting quietly on a Sunday. The husband saw his wife not as a burden but as 'an incredible, precious daughter of God.' They kept their covenants through her final day.
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Elder Andersen taught that the sealing ordinance places husband and wife in what he called 'a crucible of spiritual development', a place where Christlike qualities like sacrifice, patience, and charity can actually grow in us. The goal isn't just a lasting marriage; it's two people becoming more like the Savior together. Because that transformation takes longer than a lifetime, the journey is eternal.
Elder Andersen said our eternal marriage is 'not a short-term experiment but a journey, an eternal journey of becoming who God desires us to become.'
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The father in Elder Andersen's story kept serving because the sealing promise gave him, in his son's words, 'a perfect brightness of hope.' Elder Andersen teaches that Christ's promises, not optimism or willpower alone, are what see us through the obstacles and distractions the adversary places in a marriage.
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This week, do one specific thing that treats your marriage as a journey rather than a finished thing, a note, a conversation, a moment of patience you might otherwise skip, or time in prayer about your spouse by name.
Elder Andersen closed with Isaiah's promise that those who wait upon the Lord will mount up with wings as eagles, they will run and not be weary, walk and not faint, and he applied it directly to couples who hold to each other and to Christ through the mortal journey.
Your witness: Share briefly what the sealing covenant or the image of marriage as a journey means to you personally, not a polished statement, just what is true for you.